Book 22: At Home On The Street


This book, “At Home On The Street” and accompanying film “American Refugees” are an exquisite study of homelessness in Birmingham. Rather than citing facts and figures from other studies, the authors (Jason Wasserman & Jeffrey Clair) spent an enormous amount of time with the homeless; they stayed out on catchout corner, spent a night in the shelter, hung out in urban camps. By doing so they were able to form real friendships with several homeless men, and the book and film show a unique perspective on homelessness.

I first became aware of the project when Jason stopped by Food Not Bombs, an “organization” (I use the term loosely) of folks who believe that food is a right, not a privilege. FNB has provided a free “picnic” to anyone who would like to eat in Birmingham’s southside since 2005…no preaching, no donation necessary, no separation of “giver vs taker” – FNB folks eat the food side by side with anyone else who shows up. FNB is in the book (and the film) but had no direct influence on either.

The book and the film both stand alone, but the film is meant to be a companion to the book. If you get a chance to watch the film, try to read the book first.

Highly recommended.
252 pages

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Book 21: Mountains Beyond Mountains by Tracy Kidder

Picked up this book because I saw it on a reading list, and I had to take out two separate extensions from the library on it. Not for lack of inspiration – indeed, Paul Farmer M.D. is the man I wish my (non-existent) children would take after – but not exactly a book to read for pleasure or comfort. (Of course, there’s not much going on in Haiti these days for pleasure or comfort, so there’s that). Anyway, it seemed like the kind of book I should finish, so I did, but I didn’t really enjoy it.

2.5/5
352 pages

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Book 20: Bird by Bird

Someone recommended this book on a recent “how do i become a better person” metafilter thread. I usually loathe self help books, but I actually liked this one enough to order a copy for myself. (I can say this because it is a “writing” book and not a “something is wrong with me” book.) I like the way Anne Lamott writes, I liked the stories she used as illustrations, and (most importantly) I liked how it made my mind wander with a purpose.

239 pages

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Book 19: I am Nujood, Age 10, Divorced

In keeping with reading incredibly depressing oh-my-god-my-life-rocks-inspiring books, I decided to read “I Am Nujood, Age 10, Divorced” by Nujood Ali. This is a story of an incredibly courageous child-woman-hero, and her struggle to obtain a divorce from her arranged marriage to a 30-something man. Highly recommended.

4.5/5
192 pages

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Growing Old

My dad has been having lots of health issues lately, and a few weeks ago he had a procedure that should improve his quality of life. I went home to be with him (and my mom, and my brother), and was pleasantly surprised to see my aunt & uncle (who I hadn’t seen since I graduated from college).

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The surgery took longer than expected (like, twice as long as expected), and about 4 hours into it the pager went off and Mom went back to see what was going on. Those five minutes were the longest of my life thus far; I didn’t want to go back there without being “called” but I had no idea what was going on. So, I gave it 5 minutes. And then I went back into the unit to try to find out what was going on. I saw my dad, very groggy looking, in a bed in the hallway with some doctors standing nearby. (I have only been this relieved once before; a piece of me expected him to be dead). He was out of surgery, and looked ok! I went back to the waiting room to share the news, and then we waited for mom to come back out. She did, about ten minutes later, to tell us we could go back and see him; apparently as soon as he had gotten out of surgery a heart attack victim had come into the ER. Within hours Dad looked better than he had in years.

It is a funny thing, to have my parents grow old before my eyes. I feel like my relationship with them is the best it has ever been, and I am grateful for that. (I’m also grateful to Emily – her close relationship with her family inspired me to work on my relationship with mine). I know it isn’t easy for either of us – I know my parents wish I wasn’t gay, and I sure wish they could accept it. But it is not an issue that stands between us caring about each other – and for that I am very very grateful.

I was completely unprepared for my aunt & uncle to ask about my relationship status – but of course they did. I froze and said “I’m taken” (or maybe I said “I’m taken” and then I froze) – it was completely awkward but I didn’t think the night before my dad’s procedure was the time to discuss the incredible 6+ year relationship I’m having with my beautiful Emily, the most loving and compassionate woman I’ve ever met.

I was also completely unprepared for the RantAgainstGays at my parents church. I only go to church when I’m at home with my folks, and it’s always a meditation on patience. The service was almost over, and I started thinking about how I hadn’t been pissed off yet, and then the sermon-giver started talking about how some popular Christian singer just came out, and how horrific the world was, and could you believe her church accepted her like that? I’m pretty sure I stopped breathing for the rant’s entirety…I just kept repeating to myself “I’m here for my dad, I’m here for my dad, I’m here for my dad”. Afterwards my brother gave me a big hug and said he was sorry (heh). My mom did the same. My dad asked me to change the batteries in his hearing aid, because they went out halfway through the service. And I did.

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Book 18: Twilight

Yeah, I know. I laughed most of the way through Twilight the movie, and here I am a year later reading the book. So, it wasn’t great. (But it wasn’t terrible). And yes, I’m reading the 2nd book…because how can I truly judge a book if I am reading after having seen it’s truly awful movie?

2.5/5
544 pages

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Thoughts About Japan

It was an absolutely beautiful time of year to visit Japan. The cherry blossoms are absolutely stunning, and I’m really glad I got to see them in full bloom. Strolling through the Japanese gardens in the middle of Tokyo was incredibly relaxing, and one of my favorite parts of the trip.

Hiroshima was unbelievable to me. I felt like such a guilt loving white liberal, but I just wanted to give everyone who looked over 65 a hug and say I’m sorry…

Japan seems to be a dichotomy between a technologically advanced society and it’s ancient religious context. In the West, Buddhism isn’t really thought of as a religion – more of a philosophy, but in Japan both Shintoism and Buddhism are most definitely religions with deep rooted traditions.

The Japanese people are either very friendly, or very polite & well-mannered. Even when we were the only foreigners in the “authentic” temples (ie, used for worship), I didn’t feel uncomfortable. The only time I felt uncomfortable was in Yokosuka – the Japanese are very resistant to having a nuclear powered aircraft carrier (or even, a navy base) in their cities. The official military talk is that the US provides a defense for Japan against North Korea & China, but I don’t really believe that is anything but PR.

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Seeing all the Buddhism stuff was really neat, too. I didn’t do zazen in any official capacity while I was there, but I just felt centered having spent so much time in the shrines & temples. (Although Hiroshima felt just as spiritual as anyplace else we went.)

One thing that really surprised me was how touristy the shrines & temples were. Almost all of the shrines & temples had a small entrance fee (approx $1-4), and there were places to buy postcards and trinkets at each temple & shrine we stopped at. Several even had food vendors on the premises. It seems kinda of weird, but on the other hand I guess money is what has allowed these places to stay open and kept up for literally thousands of years. (Also, I’m not familiar with the concept of tithing being present in Buddhism or Shintoism).

I would definitely like to visit again (with Emily this time!), and stay for a longer period of time. There is so much to see and do, and we barely got started!

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Japan Day 6, Yokosuka (PM)

Yokosuka was an interesting place, but not one I’d like to visit again. As soon as we left the train station (backpacks in tow; we couldn’t find a locker big enough to put them in) we noticed a definite change in the attitude of the Japanese. All over the rest of Japan, we were perceived as tourists and the people had been very friendly and accommodating. In Yokosuka, we were perceived as Americans; only visiting this place because of the American war machine. I can’t blame them – I would be resentful too. Yokosuka was definitely a much dirtier, grimier town than anywhere else we’d been in Japan, and the Americans were responsible for stationing a nuclear-powered aircraft carrier in this town, approximately 825 km from where the Americans were responsible for devastating the city of Hiroshima with a nuclear bomb.

David met us at the entryway to the Naval Base and got us hooked up with visitor passes. (The little guard guys were not at all excited about the size of our backpacks). We left our backpacks in David’s car, and then went on a tour of the USS George Washington. It is certainly an impressive war machine and kinda cool to visit (although I wouldn’t want to live there).

on the flight deck
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Japan Day 6, Kyoto (AM)

We woke up relatively early & went to Fushimi Inari Taisha – an Inari shrine with thousands of torii lining paths to the inner shrine. The gates are painted every ten years, and are sponsored by businesses who write prayers for good fortune on the gates. (It is also the only shrine we went to that did not charge an entry fee). It wasn’t completely crowded with tourists, and I think it was my favorite spot in Kyoto.
the torii…
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prayers…
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Japan Day 5, Kyoto

By now I have no idea what day it is or what time it is anywhere other than the place that I am at. I did laundry in the morning, and drank 5 cups of coffee before breakfast. (The laundry room had two coffee vending machines – one for hot coffee, the other for cold coffee). We had breakfast at McDonalds (I know, I know. I feel bad about it but we were hungry!). I did not eat the breakfast “McHotDog Classic” (a hotdog with ketchup & scrambled eggs) but I did try the potato, bacon, and cheese pie (tasted like deep fried potato soup).

We set off for a walking trail that someone at the Kyoto tourism center told us about. We first ended up at the Myoshin-ji Buddhist temple complex. We wandered through the complex and came upon a service in progress – lots of chanting and incense. We didn’t go in but stood a ways away and watched for a little while.
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